Is your enthusiasm and good intentions of sticking to your New Year's resolutions wearing off?
The optimism and revitalization that most of us experience at the start of the year often fade when day to day worries and pressures begin to cloud our focus and weaken our resolve.
Worrying about smoking when your friends offer you a cigarette … gym trips getting harder to do on these raining nights … A night out at a restaurant makes you feel like you are back to square one with your diet …
Ruminating about the past is one of the largest obstacles to success. People often find it difficult to develop the new habits required to achieve their goal because they subconsciously repeat old behaviors, which those behaviors refer to food, relationships, exercise, studying or household finances.Initial momentum becomes dissipated when people unconsciously remind themselves of past unsuccessful attempts, and they erroneously believe that because that's how they behaved in the past, they will inevitably repeat the same behavior. They spend more time focusing on how not to succeed than they do visualizing their success.
The negative effects of ruminating were highlighted in a BBC Stress Experiment carried out in June 2011. Preliminary results from the study of over 30,000 participants indicate very clearly that 'a tendency to blame yourself for problems and, most importantly, a tendency to ruminate and worry are the most important factors when it comes to predicting your chances of suffering from stress.
Solution Focused Hypnotherapists actively discouraging clients from ruminating about the past. Instead they encourage clients to talk about their 'preferred future,' a future in which they are closer to achieving their goal. New clients often express themselves in terms of what they do not want, hanging on to their past behaviors, "I will not be eating donuts," "I will not be shouting at the kids," and so on.
It's the therapist's job to help clients let go of those unhelpful thinking patterns, encouraging them to express themselves positively, and helping them to maintain motivation to achieve their goal.
We learn by repetition. When we were learning to drive a car, we kept practicing the same manoeuvre until we could do it automatically, subconsciously. It's the same with any new skill. I help clients by encouraging them to think about what they want, not what they do not want. I also help them to identify times when they have been successful, then breaking the unhelpful, negative self-talk. By letting go of the past, they are better equipped to achieve their goals.
If you feel you need help to maintain motivation for following through on your New Year's resolutions, contact me on to book a free hypnotherapy consultation at the leading practice in Plymouth.